Do you remember your last meal today? Which color did it have? Green like vegetables? Or rather pink like fresh fish? How did it taste? Spicy, juicy, or dried?
Today I am telling you how cultivating self-worth is like making a good meal.
We Need A Meal
We all need to have a meal at some time. Without having a meal it’s like torturing oneself. People do various things when they are hungry.
I have a friend — when he is hungry, nothing seems interesting to him, neither work nor game, nothing. He will daydream about food and everything instead of doing what he is supposed to do.
A hungry stomach can make my mind hungry for thoughts that are not even required. I start overthinking. In these circumstances, people who know me well would say: “for heaven’s sake, feed the poor Michel”.
We Need A Cook
We all need someone to prepare the meal. Do you remember how lucky you were, many years ago, when your mum prepared your meal multiple times a day?
She was your cook. The cook is that person who sets us free, who restores joy in our lives again. The cook makes our dreams come true, giving us delicious food to eat.
Do we always have to rely on a cook?
Self-Worth Is A Meal We Best Cook Ourselves
When people are hungry and there is no cook, they have to get to work and cook themselves. My mum knew that. She taught me how to cook.
When I was hungry, often, she would invite me in the kitchen, made me cut the onions and tomatoes, clean up the meat, and do all kinds of bizarre things needed for having a good meal.
In fact, my mum was educating me about self-worth.
Throughout my life, I learned that training is not the same as education. We usually get some training at home, in schools, or at work, but it does not mean that we come out educated.
Today, I am getting better at preparing my own special meals. These meals are mostly not as spicy or as juicy as those prepared by my mum. These meals are not boiled nor baken. They are not served three times a day.
I create my own recipes, I build my own kitchen, I am my own cook.
What do I cook? Self-worth is the meal.
How can we become better cooks?
Your Heart Will Show The Way
I have no secret, but I can share what worked for me. I would not have been able to cook my own meal without any guidance.
We all need a mentor to show us the paths.
I am not talking about some guru pointing at one path. I am talking about a companion who discloses the possible choices lying in front of us.
The companion can be your mum who educated you in the art of becoming your own cook, rather than training you to become a chief cook.
The companion can be your life partner, who educated you in the art of love and kindness, rather than training you to become a wife or husband.
I believe that the best companion is your own heart, always there for you, whispering your guidance since your first breath.
From the words of Sir Isaac Newton, your heart extends your vision, enabling you to attain greater heights.
Are you hungry? Are you looking for the right meal? Next time, when you face hunger, you have the chance to become your own cook — By visiting your inner space, sometimes with help from someone special to you.